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April 2007

Helping Young Children Develop Friendships

Karen Stephens, M.S. in Education, specializing in early childhood

Like adult friendships, children's friendships are full of ups and downs. Every child must learn how to navigate them with poise and a positive attitude. As you reflect on your own childhood friendships, I'm sure you'll agree that's easier said than done. Children can learn to tactfully stand up for their wishes and to express their own point of view during social play. And children can learn how to get their own play needs met without resorting to aggression, unethical manipulation, or name calling. Sharing, negotiation, and compromise are skills that come into play as children interact with others. Children will be left alone and isolated if they don't gradually learn to adjust and tweak ideas to keep play partners actively engaged and mutually satisfied.

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